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Breaking the pattern of I feel so alone
One of the most feelings in the world is to be surrounded by a crowd and yet, still feel utterly isolated. Disconnected from the proceedings going on all around, the visible presence of dynamic, exuberant energy of the people around you serves to emphasis how lonely you feel.
How many of us have went to a party or some other social function and found ourselves keeping cool in the shade of the corner? We feel alone, we feel isolated and so we try and distance ourselves from the reality of our situation.
There is just one problem with that scenario. If the i feel so alone song is running rampant through your head at a party, where the music and conversation of other people is deafening and intoxicating at the same time, rest assured: you are not the only one.
In some respects, it is almost a pity that we cannot selectively read each other’s minds because it would be great if we could use our prodigious skills of telepathy, identify a potential ally in our fight against boredom and then approach them to discuss things further.
Sometimes it may feel as if telepathy is necessary for something like this. After all, no one likes to admit they are struggling, and people generally don’t want to expose themselves emotionally due to a fear of being let down.
But telepathy does not exist, but candidly speaking? It’s not something that is essential to break the i feel so alone cycle either. In truth, all you have to do is strike up a conversation. Could be anyone at the social event, anyone at all.
Master the art of small talk! Even something as banal and non-controversial as “where did you find those quiches?” or “are you having a good time?” can serve as an excellent precursor to further dialogue with the person to whom you broke the ice with.
Remember, even the best of friends were perfect strangers to one another once upon a time, and that in order for their friendship to grow and blossom, there would have been some initial conversation, some overt act by either friend to plant that seed of friendship.
Depression and loneliness are scary. No one can or indeed ever will deny that. But you can make them less scary, less imposing on your quality of life by being assertive. So go on and grab those mini quiches whilst you can, and snag a few new BFFs along the way!