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The antidote to depression due to loneliness
Depression due to loneliness is in some respects, a “perfect” condition in that it is a condition that is self-replicating, self-fulfilling and able to nourish itself. As our mood degrades and we begin to feel overwhelmed by our depression, we lose interest in engaging with other people.
As we distance ourselves from our friends and family, we then atrophy both mentally and emotionally speaking. This starts the cycle all over again and so the cycle will continue with the person suffering from depression due to loneliness left feeling like there is no hope of breaking free.
Another peril associated with depression due to loneliness is that the sufferer feels that they are becoming a nuisance or burden to those people who are in their lives. They want to be noble, and brave and selfless and therefore do not want others to see how badly they are struggling.
I want you to do me a favor. The next time that horrible, nagging voice in your head tells you all the reasons why you cannot POSSIBLY speak to your best friend as to how you are feeling; switch your perspective. Stop for a moment, and rearrange the equation.
Imagine it was your friend or relative who called you out of the blue and expressed their low mood and frustration. Would you chide them for pestering you? Berate them for being “selfish”? No! You would listen to them, support them and give them the love and attention they need.
So why cannot you do that for yourself?
Self-love is a concept that is often stated but not properly applied. Too many of us expect perfection of ourselves and yet are willing to let things slide for others. So find that happy medium and middle ground!
We humans are social creatures. It is hardwired into our brains and psyche: to seek out companionship and socialization. When we ache, we yearn for a hug. When we are down, we need a friendly, compassionate ear.
We do not need to constantly “bare our soul” to others to feel better. Sometimes, just spending time with another person whether in their company or merely chatting on the phone/social media with them, is enough to raise our flagging morale and low spirits.
No-one can predict the future. We cannot possibly anticipate for certain that we will be rejected if we call someone who is special to us, and tell them how we are struggling with depression due to loneliness. So why suffer future pain?